In April 2011, Adya and I moved into where we are currently living. It's a quaint 2,000 sq ft house with 3 br, and 2 ba. It has a massive kitchen, and a huge living room with a fireplace. The house sits on 3 acres of land. We thought this was going to be awesome! I looked it over, and even checked the pipes, wiring, and paint work. There were some minor issues which I notified the land lord of. He said they'd be fixed before we moved in.
When we went to sign the list we had a checklist of items which were given to him to be fixed, and others which we agreed would be fine. So far, nothing on the list has been completed, and he claims to have lost the list. Things have been rocky since getting this house. We had gotten it as a rent to own agreement, but since have realized that this house is a money dump.
The house needs a new roof, the chimney needs fixed, new electrical, new insulation, landscaping, and seriously needs some updating. Upon moving in and cleaning things, we realized how bad it really was. The cabinets are 40yrs old, and won't close w/o the childproof locks I took off. The doors need sanded and re-stained. The chimney is leaning into the house b/c the wood supporting it has rotted from the crappy roof. The chimney leaks and won't work b/c of this. The insulation is minimal in the house. I can hear crickets outside! The yard is overgrown with monster shrubs, honey suckle, and prairie hay which is a pain to cut in the summer. The walls he painted, need repainted since you can see the last coat of paint. The bathrooms are tiny, and still in the style of the house (1973). The "master" bathroom is only a 8 x 6.5. The basement needs finished, and insulated. Also, the ceiling in the basement is only 6'9" so everything is super small. The two car garage looks awesome from the street, but it's only 7' tall. Given the automatic garage doors...it's too small to fit anything larger than a Honda Civic or PT Cruiser.
All this aside we got the property so we could hopefully save some money, and have our three horses in the back yard. I checked the zoning regulations, and checked with our neighbors to see we could. Everything seemed fine until month two of living there....
We were harassed almost weekly by animal control. One of our neighbors complained that the horses were too loud, were starved, had no water, were abused, smelled bad, etc. Animal control sent an officer out almost weekly until late July. At that point, they seized the horses; claiming that they were starving and dying of dehydration. They accused us of three counts of animal cruelty.
Prior to them taking the horses, the horses were fed a round bail of hay (free access), 3lbs of grain (each), 1 lb sunflower seeds(each), 1/2 lb beet pulp (each), and weight gainer once the summer months hit. They were also supplied with a salt & mineral block. We also had a 12 gallon automatic refilling water container for them. According to animal control this was insufficient. However, the boarding facility where we were keeping them prior only fed them 2 flakes of hay twice a day (each) and a half scoop (3 pints) grain daily.
According to animal control there were three times from April-July that the horses were without water. Two of the times the hose ruptured, and the yard was flooded. That was fixed the very next day each time. The last time I was cleaning the water bucket out since one of them decided to poop in it.
One of the neighbors informed me in July that someone had been messing with the horses and turning off the water, and he would come over and have to turn it back on. On one of the days he did that, the person who was screwing with them put something in the water container and was trying to hit the horses. He called animal control. The VERY next day they were taken. I was informed that one of the horses had collapsed from heat exhaustion and starvation. I was also told that he had been laying down that day or the day before. They also informed me that a cat and dog vet had inspected the horses, and stated that they would've died in two days. Mind you, the weather was 120 outside, but it wasn't anything the horses hadn't been in before. I saw none of this seeing as we had them out the day before feeding them and grooming them.
I had been speaking to the animal control officer not even a day before about how i was going to be moving two of them to Arkansas with a family member, and the other would be going back to the boarding facility since it was obvious someone didn't want me to have the horses there.
The day after the horses were taken, I called animal control and was given a totally different accounting of events. The officer i spoke to at that time stated that the horses hadn't gone down on the Tuesday, but that Monday. She also informed me that the Vet was out on Monday after one of the horses supposedly got wrapped around the barbed wire fence. This was peculiar since Monday night all of the horses were fine, and not a single scratch on them.
I called a week or so later to try to figure out what the hell was going on. The horses were also due for their shots and their dewormer. The captain of the shawnee county animal control unit took my call and was screaming at me. He stated that the officer I had been in contact with the whole time had been recording my conversations with her, but did not record the ones where she had spoken to me about getting them moved, or saying that their set up was fine. She also stated that she had the same set up for her two horses....
Instead he stated that the horses didn't go down on that Monday or Tuesday, and I never spoke to an officer Monday. He said that they had to lift the horses into the trailer b/c they were unable to walk they were so dehydrated, starved and exhausted.
When I arrived home the night they were taken, I had walked into the back yard to check on them and to take them their grain. That's when i realized they were missing. Their water bucket had been knocked over, the hose cut, and yet they still had a 2,500 lb bail of hay inside and some grain from that morning. I went into the house to call the police when I saw the search and seizure warrant.
All this time has passed since July, and last week Adya was arrested on three counts of animal cruelty. I bailed her out of jail ($250). A day later a warrant was posted for me for the same charges, and same bail. I bailed myself out before I went to jail that day. They were pressing the same charges on us, but separately. Usually, when there are animal cases both parties get the same charges and same case. For some reason they divided it up for us.... That seems a bit off.
We have court in November to hopefully get an extension for a lawyer. I have no clue how we are going to afford that since the house we're living in is seriously about 70% of our income. Adya just had to have it, and wouldn't listen to reason. Not only that, but the Land Lord added extra fee's at the time we signed for it. We're pretty much screwed.
It doesn't matter that we rescued two of the three horses, or that we work with horse rescue in the state. We also work with dog rescues across the US! The rescues that we've helped have offered to speak as character witnesses for us. I'm grateful for that seeing as they put themselves, and their reputations on the line.
It won't matter for anything since we more than likely won't be able to afford a lawyer. It's a double retainer fee since it's technically two separate cases. Toss in $1,580 in rent, $780 bills, gas, and food for the month that leaves us only 225 for a lawyer. Thankfully, not having the horses there saves us $200 per month.
Moving to this house has been hell, and it's only getting worse. Now it's time for maintance on the car, and I could very well be loosing my job. The company I work for can't pay the rent on the offices, and has had issues being able to pay payroll!
I'm completely at a loss for what to do, or how we are going to get out of this situation. The house was a bad idea, and we were talking about trying to get a pro bono lawyer to get us out of the three year lease on it since we can't afford it, and he's not done any maintenance on the house. Now this happens...
I really don't get it. I go out of my way to help others. I do the right thing. I don't steal, cheat, kill, back stab, or do anything malicious to anyone. I do things without a thought of what I'll get out of it. Yet, look what happens. Things ALWAYS go from good to bad, to worse, to pitch black. Eventually, they get slightly better, and get a little better than that, only to go through the same cycle.
I can't ever catch a break. A few years ago, I put $20,000 towards a business with a friend of mine. He screwed me over, and ended up getting me evicted and fired since he knew the L.L. and claimed I robbed our store. (it was actually robbed, but no clue who did it) I ended up having to move across the country with a friend b/c I had no place to stay due to his backstabbing, and I could afford no lawyer given the situation and he moved to Canada.
When I finally started to catch a break, and get things on track I let Adya move in with me. Things went downhill fast. She didn't have a job and I ended up having to pay for her horse in NY. She ended up moving that horse out here, and I still had to pay for it since she didn't have the money to do so. While living in the apartment where I wasn't suppose to have cats she ended up bringing home 4 cats (1 ran away, 1 kitten fell off the balcony when she forgot to close it), and 4 dogs. One of the dogs was picked up for a rescue, but things fell through. It took almost a year to place her. The def great dane ended up dieing from EPI, and we still have the other two. During this time she picked up a horse for me, and another horse for herself. Mind you she would only see her horse when I nagged her to go work with him. Having 1 horse is at a CHEAP boarding facility is about $8,000 /year expense. Not only that, but the second one she got herself was starved almost to death, and was $5,000 the first two months.
She ended up getting us evicted from the apartment for having all the animals in it. 680sq ft apartment with 2 cats, and four dogs..... No beuno. We were looking for houses, and had decided on something less than $900/month. We found a lot of super nice houses that were brand new that we could've bought for around 600-875/month, but they didn't have a yard for the horses. She had to have the one with a HUGE yard that was out of our budget. We waited weeks, and looked around. All the while she was throwing a fit b/c we weren't going to get the one we are in now. She had to have it no matter what!
At this point I wouldn't be able to get an apartment on my own, and I was stuck with the dogs. Animals are a responsibility not an accessory to be tossed. I couldn't get a house on my own since she screwed my credit, and I was paying for her car. It was my money going to bills while her's went for the animals. She'd spend $1500 on a cat or dog she'd pick up, and tell me about it after it left so I'd have to cover the bills. All the while, I"m paying for the car in her name so we can get back and forth. I never had a dime to put back for anything, and still don't b/c of the house and the current situation.
I could've left before the animal charges came back and the other crap she pulled, but I couldn't leave the dogs. Adya doesn't take care of animals after the first or second week. They become a chore and something she doesn't want to do after that point. When I re-homed one of the dogs she threw a fit and called the police. Apparently, in Kansas pets are considered personal property, and that was the same as theft...
If i leave they would die. I found that out when I left for a week on business. I went to a conference for work, and she hadn't fed or watered the dogs or cats for that whole time. She also didn't take them out of their crates!!!!
I had the chance to get out and go to Kansas City with my sister. It wasn't an ideal situation, but it would've been another start away from the insanity. It's honestly more than I can deal with. Even as I'm writing this I feel cold and hollow. I can't believe how the events have turned out, and I have no clue what will come of this.
Even if the charges get dropped, I'll have to pay $10/day per horse to get them back only to give them away. If we loose I go to jail 30 days for each charge...that's 90 days! I'd loose my job, loose the house, loose my possessions, and STILL have to pay the $10/day for the horses, any vet care they provided, and a fine of $500-$5,000.
I can't win for anything... If anyone does read this I apologize for the incoherent structure of this post, and the way it jumps around. However, if someone really does read this. I'd really like some form of input...
Thanks..
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Where has the time gone!
These past few weeks seem to run together. My graps of time is slipping it seems. The days and weeks seem to run together. There clearly isn't enough time in a week to get everything done...that, or I just have too much to do.
I ended up telling Seth off a few days after my last post. He still doesn't have a job, and he still doesn't do anything around the house despite everything. He had an interview at "Taco Bell" for a night shift manager position. He claims they will hire him and train him for that position. According to Seth, his first interview was just to see if he could show up on time. The next one was a week later, to meet another of the 3 managers. The most recent interview was to meet the other assistant manager and the district manager. he learned that he would not be getting the $9.25/hour he said he wouldn't work less for. Instead, he'll be making $7.50/hour (minimum wage is $7.25), and he thinks they hired him on as a manager in training. We'll all find out on Oct. 5th whether he has a job or not. If he doesn't I'm going to give him 14 days notice to get out.
I know that sounds absolutely horrible of me to talk about all of this. Yes it is. I could be a better friend, and I probably could deal with more of his laziness and more of him being a slob. I'm actually nice to Jamie and Seth...Adya is the one who yells at them constantly. Seth had a job at a local gift store called "Things Remembered", but Jamie applied for the assistant manager position. She told the store manager that Seth was her bf. She knew that'd keep him from getting the job. Jamie was rather spiteful of Seth possibly having a manager position and an eight hour a week second job.
Jamie was denied employement from "Lane Bryant" a clothing store for women that are 50-120lbs overweight. They wanted her for the ASM job, but the second time she interviewd she hadn't bathed in 3 days. The manager had her come back in the next day to turn in her paperwork. Jamie didn't bother to clean up then either, so they decided to not give her the job. I know you're thinking that someone can't smell that bad. Imagine someone who doesn't scrub their body. They use liquid soap without a poof, lufa, or washcloth. She sweats quite a bit at her job, but she can't smell herself! I won't give her rides to and from town unless she has bathed recently. It's noxious to sit in the car with her considering she talks non stop too.
I do understand some people have an odor problem, and can't help it. That i'm ok with. However, I've smelled her after she has bathed and scrubbed properly. I've also smelled her breath after she brushes and flosses. She smells normal, so there is no reason she should stink. I had to teach Seth and Jamie to wash their hands after using the water closet, and upon waking up. The sad part is that both of them have worked food service. Jamie has even had a reputable position at Hills pet nutrition!
Jamie and Seth ended up going back out again. I think it's more an issue of they just settled for less. She still complains non-stop about him (vice-versa). Thankfully, Seth has taken a hint and started to get his act together.
Last week I ended up taking Adya to Buffalo Wild Wings since she finally cleaned up her mess in the bedroom. After that, I realized I was hungry and wanted hot wings too! I ended up buying 5lbs of wings, and 5lbs of breasts and proceeded to BBq 10lbs of chicken lol. I also made a ham, and some fish with some jamaican jerk seasoning. On Friday, I made pizza for everyone. Seth and Jamie ended up wasting about $100 of their food stamps last month. Seth left 5lbs of pork "chops" in the fridge til they went bad, wasted $15 of ahai tuna, 5lbs of lean ground chuck, and I don't remember how many lbs of steak. He burned the steaks and the tuna on the grill. That's what happens when you put something on the grill and go play Ps3 for three hours without checking on the food.
I went to the "Bark Park" on Friday before I went in to cover for Gloria, and I made the mistake of taking treats into the big dog side. I had forgotten that they were in my pocket! Within seconds I had a beagle, my basset hound Freya, 2 rhodesian ridgeback's, a lab, and a boxer all trying to get into my pocket to get the treats! I had to go put them in the car. (lol) The dogs got to play for about 40 minutes before I got a call that my co-worker needed me to come in and work for her. During that timespan I was asked at least half a dozen times if Sokah was a wolf, or what % he was. The county I live in has an ordianace against "Wolf-hyrbids" or wolves. So, if I said anything other than a husky mix he'd be taken and put down. Not only that, but the word "wolf" comes up and people get VERY judgemental and skiddish. The last thing I want is for that to happen, and some dog bites him, and he bites them back. It'd just be an incident waiting to happen.
We canceled the U-verse and signed up for Cox cable. I'm not exactly thrilled about that, but it is almost $60 cheaper, and gives us faster internet (12mbs with powerboost). The basic channel quality is garbage, and they managed to screw up our work order. They signed us up for 5 digital boxes, but we only signed up for 2 HD boxes. We had to ask for the HD boxes, and the tech only had one. They also ended up giving us the wrong channel packages, and not signing us up for the promotion we had asked for. I'll have to call and deal with that on Monday.
Somehow, Adya managed to get a virus on my work computer!!!! She was looking at Imgur, and a banned loaded... That's all it took to get the "Open Cloud Security Center" virus. I had it removed and the computer working 100% normal after a few hours. I came in today, and the power had gone out before I could save the changes to my profile. I tried to fix it today, but my profile is now corrupt and I can't even get on it to fix the issues. I just hope it doesn't transfer to anything on the remote server. I log in remotely to a server which just happens to have all of our patient files. I can't believe the virus software we have didn't stop it. It was up to date too!
On top of that, I had to replace the HDD to my laptop! Seth decided on Thursday last week, that instead of setting the tool box down, he'd toss it... He tossed it where my laptop was. We were listening to music when he hit the base of it, and it broke the HDD. I ended up loosing ALL of the pictures of the horses I had, all of the pictures of the dogs, pictures of my neice, the pictures a special someone sent me, my music, movies, 20gig of books, saved game files, portfolio's, and even my CGI portfolio for digital animation. I realize I should've had it backed up. The issue is, I did have it all backed up! I had it spread out on a few extra HDD's I had laying around. I was working on moving everything onto a single one with a backup. So it's all lost.
Well, I finally got back in touch with "Angel" (pseudonym) again. Angel was a girl I met online after a (then) friend Steve broke up with her. He had been playing with her acting like his friend Rick. He had me interviene to explain that he was Steve, and not Rick. He basically tossed me in the middle of it trying to mop up his mess. That was back in 2004 or 2005. Since then Angel and I have been friends and were pretty close. We ended up dating for quite a while. To my dismay I went away for a bit, only to find that she screwed around with something like 5-6 guys while we were dating. She tried covering it up, but she didn't realize that all of her friends she had introduced me to were my friends now too. They were telling me what she was doing when I got back. I gently confronted her, and she denied it for almost 2 months. During that time, I ended up talking to her current bf while she was dating me. He told me what was going on. At that point, I wasn't even mad. It was an experiment to see how long it'd take for her to feel guilty and tell me. I confronted her with that, and he did too. She chose him, only to have things blow up in a week or two afterwards. She tried to fix things with me, but honestly I still to this day don't trust her. During her trying to fix things with me, she ended up falling for her boss at work.
Mind you, she was 16 at the time and he was 30(?). With common sense you can tell where that ended up.... As it turns out, he was just in it for the sex. (big surprise?) He was going through a divorce with his wife when all this was happening, and Angel was the mistress. Too bad Angel didn't realize he was using her though. He was abusive to her, had her buy him things, and pay for his stuff (mind you he was making way more than she was, and yet he was still playing Yugi-oh!). She stuck with him for about two years! Only to see that those of us who told her he just wanted to use her were right. I'm just giving the bare bones here.
So, after this all ends she magically reappears and starts chatting me up again. At that point I"m wondering why the hell she thinks I'm going to be her go to guy again once she screwed me over. While we were dating she talked about how she wanted to marry me, how she'd never cheat, how she loved me, how she thought I was her soul mate. In hind sight it's enough to make me choke seeing what happened, and the fact I bought her a 18k white gold & 2c Tanzanite engagement ring. Also, while with the thirty something guy, she was still trying to patch things up with me, and sent me some rather naughty pictures. No I never posted them online, but I sure thought about it after what happened.
Anyway, things have been off and on as friends. She claims to want more, but doesn't want to commit to anything. I don't blame her either. She still has baggage from her previous relationships she hasn't worked out, but then again, she had baggage when we started dating the first time. She seems to have a hard time making peace with things. I do feel bad for her though, considering everything she's been through. She's kind to others, goes out of her way to do everything for everyone. She's the type of person to give you the shirt off her back, and her shoes if it'll help. She doesn't think of anything in return, but she goes too far. She ends up paying her friend's bills when they are irresponsible, puts herself in a bind for them, and goes out of her way to do things for them. They don't ever do anything for her. Granted, she'd never ask due to being too proud, and stubborn. She's even had to sleep in her car for lack of gas to get home, or had to sleep on her friend's porch. All b/c she gave them what she didn't have to help them, and they couldn't even be bothered to let her come inside or give up a bed for her!
She's got some maturing to do and to sort through her hells, but we all do. It almost seems like she's being saintly to atone for something she thinks she's done in the past, or she has done something to deserve what's happened. Life deals us wild cards at times, and other times it's the results of our decisions.
I do admit though, it feel slike she only talks to me b/c i'm still here. Well, that and she usually only talks to me weeks-days before she wants something. Recently she popped up out of nowhere a month ago, and was being all sweet and sent me some things. That was right before she sent me a pair of shoes for a guy friend of hers, that I needed to spend about $35 to ship to her. They dont' deliver to her country, and they don't have those shoes in that size. I would've done it regardless, but I have finally learned when & where to draw the line. Earlier this year she wanted me to send her a ruby ring. She wanted a ring from me. I have not done that, nor do I plan on doing that seeing how things are going so far. Yes, I do still have immense affection for her, and when she ever matures and wants me back I'd highly consider it.
Well, I'm out of time so I leave you with a delicious Jamaican Jerk recipe that is just a few calories, and just as good as the ones with brown sugar...if not better
Jamaican Jerk:
-½ Tbsp of: onion powder, garlic powder, allspice, coriander.
-1 Tbsp thyme
-1 tsp of: nutmeg, cinnamon, chili powder, cayenne pepper
-3 Tbsp fresh lime juice
-1 Tbsp olive oil
- 1.5Tbsp ground Ginger
- Fresh ground pepercorn to taste
Directions:
3 scallions, chopped
4 large garlic cloves
1 small onion, chopped
3 fresh habanero chiles, stemmed and seeded
1/4 cup fresh lime juice
2 Tbsp tamari
3 Tbsp olive oil
1 1/2 tsp salt
1 Tbsp thyme leaves
2 tsp ground allspice
2 tsp fresh ground black pepper
3/4 tsp ground nutmeg
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp ground ginger
Blend until smooth in food processor or blender.
Pour into ziplock bag, add meat, push out air, seal, and let sit for 8-24 hours, turning 2-3 times.
Remove from fridge, let sit for 30 min.
Grill til done, or can be baked for women trying to decrease risk of breast cancer
Goes great with fried plantains, coconut shrimp, salad, or w/e else you can think of! My roommates give it two thumbs up. Also works great on shishkabobs!
I ended up telling Seth off a few days after my last post. He still doesn't have a job, and he still doesn't do anything around the house despite everything. He had an interview at "Taco Bell" for a night shift manager position. He claims they will hire him and train him for that position. According to Seth, his first interview was just to see if he could show up on time. The next one was a week later, to meet another of the 3 managers. The most recent interview was to meet the other assistant manager and the district manager. he learned that he would not be getting the $9.25/hour he said he wouldn't work less for. Instead, he'll be making $7.50/hour (minimum wage is $7.25), and he thinks they hired him on as a manager in training. We'll all find out on Oct. 5th whether he has a job or not. If he doesn't I'm going to give him 14 days notice to get out.
I know that sounds absolutely horrible of me to talk about all of this. Yes it is. I could be a better friend, and I probably could deal with more of his laziness and more of him being a slob. I'm actually nice to Jamie and Seth...Adya is the one who yells at them constantly. Seth had a job at a local gift store called "Things Remembered", but Jamie applied for the assistant manager position. She told the store manager that Seth was her bf. She knew that'd keep him from getting the job. Jamie was rather spiteful of Seth possibly having a manager position and an eight hour a week second job.
Jamie was denied employement from "Lane Bryant" a clothing store for women that are 50-120lbs overweight. They wanted her for the ASM job, but the second time she interviewd she hadn't bathed in 3 days. The manager had her come back in the next day to turn in her paperwork. Jamie didn't bother to clean up then either, so they decided to not give her the job. I know you're thinking that someone can't smell that bad. Imagine someone who doesn't scrub their body. They use liquid soap without a poof, lufa, or washcloth. She sweats quite a bit at her job, but she can't smell herself! I won't give her rides to and from town unless she has bathed recently. It's noxious to sit in the car with her considering she talks non stop too.
I do understand some people have an odor problem, and can't help it. That i'm ok with. However, I've smelled her after she has bathed and scrubbed properly. I've also smelled her breath after she brushes and flosses. She smells normal, so there is no reason she should stink. I had to teach Seth and Jamie to wash their hands after using the water closet, and upon waking up. The sad part is that both of them have worked food service. Jamie has even had a reputable position at Hills pet nutrition!
Jamie and Seth ended up going back out again. I think it's more an issue of they just settled for less. She still complains non-stop about him (vice-versa). Thankfully, Seth has taken a hint and started to get his act together.
Last week I ended up taking Adya to Buffalo Wild Wings since she finally cleaned up her mess in the bedroom. After that, I realized I was hungry and wanted hot wings too! I ended up buying 5lbs of wings, and 5lbs of breasts and proceeded to BBq 10lbs of chicken lol. I also made a ham, and some fish with some jamaican jerk seasoning. On Friday, I made pizza for everyone. Seth and Jamie ended up wasting about $100 of their food stamps last month. Seth left 5lbs of pork "chops" in the fridge til they went bad, wasted $15 of ahai tuna, 5lbs of lean ground chuck, and I don't remember how many lbs of steak. He burned the steaks and the tuna on the grill. That's what happens when you put something on the grill and go play Ps3 for three hours without checking on the food.
I went to the "Bark Park" on Friday before I went in to cover for Gloria, and I made the mistake of taking treats into the big dog side. I had forgotten that they were in my pocket! Within seconds I had a beagle, my basset hound Freya, 2 rhodesian ridgeback's, a lab, and a boxer all trying to get into my pocket to get the treats! I had to go put them in the car. (lol) The dogs got to play for about 40 minutes before I got a call that my co-worker needed me to come in and work for her. During that timespan I was asked at least half a dozen times if Sokah was a wolf, or what % he was. The county I live in has an ordianace against "Wolf-hyrbids" or wolves. So, if I said anything other than a husky mix he'd be taken and put down. Not only that, but the word "wolf" comes up and people get VERY judgemental and skiddish. The last thing I want is for that to happen, and some dog bites him, and he bites them back. It'd just be an incident waiting to happen.
We canceled the U-verse and signed up for Cox cable. I'm not exactly thrilled about that, but it is almost $60 cheaper, and gives us faster internet (12mbs with powerboost). The basic channel quality is garbage, and they managed to screw up our work order. They signed us up for 5 digital boxes, but we only signed up for 2 HD boxes. We had to ask for the HD boxes, and the tech only had one. They also ended up giving us the wrong channel packages, and not signing us up for the promotion we had asked for. I'll have to call and deal with that on Monday.
Somehow, Adya managed to get a virus on my work computer!!!! She was looking at Imgur, and a banned loaded... That's all it took to get the "Open Cloud Security Center" virus. I had it removed and the computer working 100% normal after a few hours. I came in today, and the power had gone out before I could save the changes to my profile. I tried to fix it today, but my profile is now corrupt and I can't even get on it to fix the issues. I just hope it doesn't transfer to anything on the remote server. I log in remotely to a server which just happens to have all of our patient files. I can't believe the virus software we have didn't stop it. It was up to date too!
On top of that, I had to replace the HDD to my laptop! Seth decided on Thursday last week, that instead of setting the tool box down, he'd toss it... He tossed it where my laptop was. We were listening to music when he hit the base of it, and it broke the HDD. I ended up loosing ALL of the pictures of the horses I had, all of the pictures of the dogs, pictures of my neice, the pictures a special someone sent me, my music, movies, 20gig of books, saved game files, portfolio's, and even my CGI portfolio for digital animation. I realize I should've had it backed up. The issue is, I did have it all backed up! I had it spread out on a few extra HDD's I had laying around. I was working on moving everything onto a single one with a backup. So it's all lost.
Well, I finally got back in touch with "Angel" (pseudonym) again. Angel was a girl I met online after a (then) friend Steve broke up with her. He had been playing with her acting like his friend Rick. He had me interviene to explain that he was Steve, and not Rick. He basically tossed me in the middle of it trying to mop up his mess. That was back in 2004 or 2005. Since then Angel and I have been friends and were pretty close. We ended up dating for quite a while. To my dismay I went away for a bit, only to find that she screwed around with something like 5-6 guys while we were dating. She tried covering it up, but she didn't realize that all of her friends she had introduced me to were my friends now too. They were telling me what she was doing when I got back. I gently confronted her, and she denied it for almost 2 months. During that time, I ended up talking to her current bf while she was dating me. He told me what was going on. At that point, I wasn't even mad. It was an experiment to see how long it'd take for her to feel guilty and tell me. I confronted her with that, and he did too. She chose him, only to have things blow up in a week or two afterwards. She tried to fix things with me, but honestly I still to this day don't trust her. During her trying to fix things with me, she ended up falling for her boss at work.
Mind you, she was 16 at the time and he was 30(?). With common sense you can tell where that ended up.... As it turns out, he was just in it for the sex. (big surprise?) He was going through a divorce with his wife when all this was happening, and Angel was the mistress. Too bad Angel didn't realize he was using her though. He was abusive to her, had her buy him things, and pay for his stuff (mind you he was making way more than she was, and yet he was still playing Yugi-oh!). She stuck with him for about two years! Only to see that those of us who told her he just wanted to use her were right. I'm just giving the bare bones here.
So, after this all ends she magically reappears and starts chatting me up again. At that point I"m wondering why the hell she thinks I'm going to be her go to guy again once she screwed me over. While we were dating she talked about how she wanted to marry me, how she'd never cheat, how she loved me, how she thought I was her soul mate. In hind sight it's enough to make me choke seeing what happened, and the fact I bought her a 18k white gold & 2c Tanzanite engagement ring. Also, while with the thirty something guy, she was still trying to patch things up with me, and sent me some rather naughty pictures. No I never posted them online, but I sure thought about it after what happened.
Anyway, things have been off and on as friends. She claims to want more, but doesn't want to commit to anything. I don't blame her either. She still has baggage from her previous relationships she hasn't worked out, but then again, she had baggage when we started dating the first time. She seems to have a hard time making peace with things. I do feel bad for her though, considering everything she's been through. She's kind to others, goes out of her way to do everything for everyone. She's the type of person to give you the shirt off her back, and her shoes if it'll help. She doesn't think of anything in return, but she goes too far. She ends up paying her friend's bills when they are irresponsible, puts herself in a bind for them, and goes out of her way to do things for them. They don't ever do anything for her. Granted, she'd never ask due to being too proud, and stubborn. She's even had to sleep in her car for lack of gas to get home, or had to sleep on her friend's porch. All b/c she gave them what she didn't have to help them, and they couldn't even be bothered to let her come inside or give up a bed for her!
She's got some maturing to do and to sort through her hells, but we all do. It almost seems like she's being saintly to atone for something she thinks she's done in the past, or she has done something to deserve what's happened. Life deals us wild cards at times, and other times it's the results of our decisions.
I do admit though, it feel slike she only talks to me b/c i'm still here. Well, that and she usually only talks to me weeks-days before she wants something. Recently she popped up out of nowhere a month ago, and was being all sweet and sent me some things. That was right before she sent me a pair of shoes for a guy friend of hers, that I needed to spend about $35 to ship to her. They dont' deliver to her country, and they don't have those shoes in that size. I would've done it regardless, but I have finally learned when & where to draw the line. Earlier this year she wanted me to send her a ruby ring. She wanted a ring from me. I have not done that, nor do I plan on doing that seeing how things are going so far. Yes, I do still have immense affection for her, and when she ever matures and wants me back I'd highly consider it.
Well, I'm out of time so I leave you with a delicious Jamaican Jerk recipe that is just a few calories, and just as good as the ones with brown sugar...if not better
Jamaican Jerk:
-½ Tbsp of: onion powder, garlic powder, allspice, coriander.
-1 Tbsp thyme
-1 tsp of: nutmeg, cinnamon, chili powder, cayenne pepper
-3 Tbsp fresh lime juice
-1 Tbsp olive oil
- 1.5Tbsp ground Ginger
- Fresh ground pepercorn to taste
Directions:
- Combine all ingredients in a bowl and mix thoroughly
- Rub onto meat and marinate in a sealed bag in the fridge for a few hours or overnight
- Bring meat out of the fridge for 30 minutes before grilling
- Grill on high heat for 2-3 min per side (depending on thickness)
- Remove from grill – Tent the meat under foil and let it rest for 5 minutes
- Slice into thin pieces (slice against the grain of the meat) and serve.
3 scallions, chopped
4 large garlic cloves
1 small onion, chopped
3 fresh habanero chiles, stemmed and seeded
1/4 cup fresh lime juice
2 Tbsp tamari
3 Tbsp olive oil
1 1/2 tsp salt
1 Tbsp thyme leaves
2 tsp ground allspice
2 tsp fresh ground black pepper
3/4 tsp ground nutmeg
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp ground ginger
Blend until smooth in food processor or blender.
Pour into ziplock bag, add meat, push out air, seal, and let sit for 8-24 hours, turning 2-3 times.
Remove from fridge, let sit for 30 min.
Grill til done, or can be baked for women trying to decrease risk of breast cancer
Goes great with fried plantains, coconut shrimp, salad, or w/e else you can think of! My roommates give it two thumbs up. Also works great on shishkabobs!
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