Long time; no post.

I hadn't realized til this morning how long it's been since I last posted. Things have been so chaotic and crazy lately.   I really need to get back in the swing of things.

I ended up posting last time at work.  I should've waited til i got home.  Adya ended up freaking out, and screaming at Seth.  We came home, and found that Seth had made a mess.  He hadn't done anything all day, let alone fill out any job apps.  I said something to him about it, and he just shrugged.  I'm doing everything I can not to yell at him like his mother did.  The kid has serious mommy issues...

Adya seriously just goes off! She starts by screaming at me.  I told her I'd go bring Sokah inside in the morning, and let him enjoy the lovely evening.  She wanted it done that second.  I told her off, which only fueled her anger. Seth started talking about Ragnarok Online like he always does; since that's his whole existence. He started talking about how his character of five years finally hit lv 99 and "transended". 

Now, normally Adya and I just hear him out and give him the attention he's seeking.  I cut him off and asked if he heard back from any of the jobs he had applied at.  He stated that he had been turned down for at least four due to his shoddy job history.  That's all it took for Adya to loose it.  She started yelling at him! I'll do my best to go through what she said, but I will not quote it due to the fact I know it's not 100% accurate.
     I don't want to hear about your f'ing game!!!! When is the last time you filled out a job application?! Oh, that's right you haven't unless we twist your arm to do so! If you ever applied yourself you would've had a job by now! It's been how many months...Oh that's right! It's been 4 months since you've been fired, and YOU have only filled out for 4-5 jobs!  Jamie and (me)Kai have done twenty a piece for you! Why can't you be bothered to do it "Mr. King of Kings".  (Yes, Seth thinks he is a reincarnated god, and his destiny is to be the king of humanity.  That he's destined to save all of us.  It's his way of feeling better about himself i'm guessing but he's a nutter imo) If you're a king we're all f'd. You'll never amount to anything, and frankly I'm sick of you being here.  Get out!!!! I don't care if you don't have a place to go.  You should have thought of that before you decided to sit on your lazy ass and not do a damn thing!  Hell, you even got fired from f'ing Wal Mart! (FYI Adya worked there.  Her way of quitting there was not to show for 2 months.  They kept putting her on the schedule.  She was one of two people in her department, and it was getting backed up w/o her being there.  They only took her off the schedule after she had told them she quit 2 months ago.) It's almost impossible to get fired from Wal Mart, but guess what, you managed to! You can't keep a job for longer than 3-4 months! You've been fired from every job you've ever worked! Why not get off your sorry ass, and do something for a change!  Clearly, what your doing doesn't work.  Try something else, but do it on someone else's dime! I'm tired of paying for you to sit on your ass, and play games while I work a job I hate. 

Seth, looked to me for support as his friend, but I didn't give any.  Everything that she said was accurate.  I told both of them that she was too harsh on him, but it wasn't unfounded or false.  He admitted that what she said was true.  Seth had a breakdown afterwards.  It wasn't about how he had failed at everything b/c he yells at customers, or how he was lazy.  He was crying over the fact he didn't know where he would go.  He couldn't move back in with his mom, and I'm seriously his only friend.  He has burnt every bridge he ever had, by doing the same thing he was doing now.  I apparently just have more patience that people he has previously encountered.  However, I'm way past the point of patience.

After his breakdown he filled out six job apps online.  His usual is three to four.  Early the next morning after Adya had taken the car into work, he had gotten a call for Rent A Center.  They wanted him in for a job interview. It was one of the applications he had filled out just hours before.  They set up the interview for Thursday.  Nothing else happened the rest of the day.  I mowed part of the yard, and somehow managed to find poison sumac growing up one of the trees.  I cut it down and ripped it out.  Luckily, I washed my hands with Dawn dish soap promptly afterwards, and I had no adverse reaction to the sumac.

Thursday morning Adya and I took Seth to his interview, and got him there early.  He had decided twenty minutes before we were leaving to shower. If I hadn't been badgering him to hurry, he would've been late.  He arrived ten minutes early, and we left to go check out one of the Halloween stores for decorations.  They didn't have anything that didn't look "cheesy" so we ended up not getting anything.  When the interview was over with Seth said they would call him next week, and that RAC was doing interviews til Saturday. We stopped by a few places so that Seth could get physical applications to fill out since the RAC job sounded unsure.

When we got home, we took care of the dogs, and I ran Adya into town for work.  I ran a few errands and came back home.  I started cleaning the house since it was raining out.  I couldn't exactly finish the mowing in the rain.  While I was cleaning Seth played MMO's.  He honestly played til about 5am the next day. 

Friday, was the final straw.  I had gotten up, and found that Seth hadn't completed any of the applications.  He was suppose to get up at 10:00am to turn them in, but slept in til 2pm. I had enough.  I made out a rental agreement for bills, and responsibilities.  I used a notarized legal rental agreement from a local apartment complex, and added in a few things.  The most notable was the deadline for Seth to have a job.  I stated that he had to have a job by October 28th or he was to be evicted.  I also outlined their responsibilities, pet deposit, the rent amount, and when it is due. Both of them signed the rental agreement with no quips.  I put the part about the pet deposit; b/c when we took in Jamie's dog Angelo she stated that she would have the pet deposit when she got paid. 

Well, we took Jamie into town to go to the bank, and to get Seth's drivers license renewed. Seth's license was void after his 21st birth day back in June.  Once Jamie got back in the car at the bank, I asked her for the refundable pet deposit.  Her reply was, "I don't have enough to pay you, shaun, gas money, my psych, my appointment, or anything else." I reminded her that she swore and promised she would have the pet deposit, no matter what.  She stated she wanted to keep Angelo, but clearly couldn't afford him. 

I asked her at that point if she honestly wanted to keep him.  "It's not like you take care of him. All last week I was the one who fed him, brushed him, and worked on retraining him.  You haven't even bothered to so much as go outside to see if he is even still there.  If you cared, or wanted him than you would have at least done that much.  Hell, he is still covered in pee from when he was trying to mark his territory.  (Angelo is a <75lb corgi.  He's at least(!) 20lbs overweight. There's so much extra fat, when he goes "potty" he ends up with it on his thighs or his butt.  Yes, he has a bubble butt.) That was a week ago Jamie!" Her reply was that she had been stressed and figured we were doing it so she didn't have to, "I just don't have the time." >_> Seriously?! "Then you don't need a dog!" I reminded her that she also agreed to purchase the supplies for a fence for him and Freya (basset hound). He can't continue to stay in the one we have with 3 other dogs; it's just too small.
We ended up deciding that she can pay half of it upfront and pay the other half when she get's paid next.  We also enacted a "3 strike rule" if she does not take care of her dog 3 times in a month, he finds a home with the corgi rescue.  They have already set up a spot for him in advance.

Seth ended up getting his license renewed, and filling out a few job applications that night only after much to do about him doing them. 


Saturday wasn't a bad day at work.  I was busy with a lot of people coming in to the office. Adya had another fit dealing with Seth though.  He sat on the computer reading "Berserk!" manga, from start to 98/300. He also told her that when I came home I'd be making beer bratwurst and Italian sausages. Seth tends to volunteer me for things, and they usually get thrown back in his face.  This time it was Adya.  She yelled at him in the kitchen while on the phone with me.  She called to inform me I was cooking for Seth  that night.  Seth ended up cooking them on the George Foreman grill, and ruining it.  He decided he'd clean it with a steel wool pad.  Now that it's scratched all to hell, I have to replace it.  Which means he will be paying me back for it. 
After work I went to the store, and picked up some brats, sausage, and coal for the grill.  I still ended up cooking.  The ones Seth made were still raw in the middle.  I didn't make beer brats due to the fact they have to marinate for hours, and we were out of beer.  I'm not a beer drinker so it's silly to buy a case or a few and leave them in the fridge for months.  They still turned out well according to Jamie and Adya.

Yesterday I ended up driving to Burlingame, Kansas to pick up a blind cat for a rescue.  She is due to have kittens any day.  Yes i'll post pictures! The cat seems to have been blind since she was born.  It has full color in it's eyes, and gets around just fine.  We dubbed her "Echo".  She chirps and meows as a form of echolocation.

Ac Fixed!!

Well, after the fiasco with the AC I sent the tech a text the next day to see if he had heard anything.  He stated he hadn't spoken to the LL.  So,  I shot the LL a text with a picture of the thermostat on 90(!).  He sent a text back stating he thought it was fixed, and he hadn't heard from the technician.  Bull **** I saw him call the tech and they were talking about how the unit had to be replaced b/c it could blow with proper amount of coolant in the system. 



The new tech came out at 6:45am the next day, and put more coolant in the system.  He stated that the LL was looking for a new unit to replace the old one.  The house finally dropped to a reasonable 74°f (23°c).  I have to say, that's been the first time since April that the house has been that cool during the day! It was definitely a nice change of pace.  Although, it felt almost too cold given what the temperature had been previously.



Seth finally told Jamie that he only cared for her as a friend, and she reminded him of his ex.  His ex was rather the big lass ( 268lbs or 121kg).  Yeah, Jamie is big too, but only 115kg...still a hefty lass.  I have to say given what was said; Seth has no tact at all.  She was in the room trying to talk him back into getting back with her.  She stated that her psych told her she needs to move out & move on, or deal with Seth and try to get him back if she thinks that's possible.  She took the advice as "Seth wants you back so work harder."

Friday was rather uneventful, until the evening.  When I arrived home I had asked Seth if he had filled out any applications.  He hadn't done a single one.  He also left the trash sitting in the kitchen.  He had apparently been keeping his dirty plates, and food containers in his room til that afternoon.  He put a total of two full trash bags in the kitchen, and filled up the first one.  He just left them there! All he had to do was walk out the front door, go down nine stairs, walk 20ft, and put them in the garbage.  He couldn't be bothered.

That was just the start of everything.  Seth had also left me a few other surprises.  He ate all of  the Oreo cookies that we had bought the night before.  He left the sink and the dishwasher full of dirty dishes. Maybe it's just me nagging, but that's a bit rude when you're home all day and you aren't doing anything.

Needless to say, I snapped.  I yelled at Seth for not doing anything, and told him he needs to get a job by the end of October.  If he doesn't have one by then I told him, he is going to have to find a new place to live. I lived with Seth and Jamie for a month when things with Adya went crazy.  I had to pay them rent twice; once due to the fact rent was due, and a second time because they wasted the rent and needed the rent paid. I had to give them extra cash to cover their bills too!  I know you're asking yourself why the heck i let them move in with me.  Well, they gave me a place to stay and they were getting evicted so i felt obligated to do so.


     Saturday rolls around, and I wake up early to go to work.  I like going to work when I'm stressed from home issues it helps me relax.  I have a pretty low stress job. (i.m.o.) The only problem with that is Jamie comes with me to work since she's just across the street.  She will hang out at the front desk with me until i ask her to wait in the waiting room, or one of the office cubicles. She looks completely unprofessional at most times.  She seriously wears this to work: black slacks, black shoes, black polo, two studded bracelets, two costume jewelry rings, a studded leather choker, one kingdom hearts "heartless" pendant, black or purple eye shadow super dark, electric blue nail polish, and dark red lip stick.  She also wears her hair down so that it hangs past her bum.  Since she doesn't bathe regularly it knots, tangles, and looks greasy. On top of that she smells from not bathing, or from washing her bra of 2 years!

Now, I have to state these are issues that are usually only seen in the deep south, or severe poverty ridden areas.  However, that is her personal preference!  I made up a list of house rules when I got home.  Here's what i had written.

"

House Rules

·         Pick up after yourself!  This includes trash, dishes, and clothing.

·         If you have clothes in the washer or dryer, please move them promptly.  Do not let them sit for hours or even days.

·         If you notice the trash is full…For God(s) sakes take it out and replace the bag!!! NO EXCUSES

·         If the dish washer is full run it, and place a magnet to show the dishes are clean. 

·         If you go to put dishes in the dishwasher with clean dishes, put them up.  There is no excuse for this aside from sloth and laziness.

·         Bathrooms are to be cleaned weekly! This includes moping the floor, cleaning out the tub & walls, cleaning the toilet, and countertops. 

·         The kitchen is to be cleaned upon using it.  Clean as you go, and you have less of a mess to clean when you are done. 

·         Dusting is to be done weekly after vacuuming.

·         The floors will be vacuumed weekly.  If you have too much “shit” on your floor that would impede this…clean your room.  (Having it dirty only shows a sign of laziness, lack of motivation, and a lack of self-respect / confidence.

·         If you don’t want the cats in it, keep it closed.  Cats are curious by nature, and the only way to stop that is to not have a cat. 

Further Items for Consideration

·        If you need a ride into town for something…don’t just assume that it’s going to happen.  Ask! It’s proper, and it’s considerate. 

·        Ur momma gave ya manners! Use em!

·        If you ask to have some of another person’s food, for god sakes don’t eat the majority of it or even half…Have “some”.

·        If you split something with someone, that means an even share.

·        Being a responsible adult means paying your bills and debt FIRST.  If you have money left over, then that’s yours to spend as you see fit.

·        Be considerate and hygienic.  That includes bathing daily (scrubbing with something, using soap, shampoo and conditioner (or just condition every other day), and brushing your teeth.  No one wants to smell your nastiness. 

"

Yes i seriously had to post that on the refrigerator.  I felt horrible doing so, but It was getting to the point I was running out of ideas on how to get my point across.  Seth got upset about parts of it.  He couldn't understand why he had to brush his teeth daily, and admitted to a hygiene problem.  Luckily, he's been working on that since moving in. 

Sunday was an adventure! Jamie's ex told her she had to come get her dog in seven days or he was going to re-home it.  She took this as, "You have seven days to get your dog or i'm going to euthanize it!" We picked the dog up after work, and she refused to let us go upstairs to talk to her ex.  I had offered due to the fact she was saying that he was afraid he was going to hit her.  

After a few minutes I sent Jamie a text to remind her about the $300 pet deposit that's required on all pets.  Her phone went off in the car.  I thought maybe it was Adya's (they have the same phone) until I noticed that it was from her ex saying ty for picking up the dog, and my  text.  Adya picked it up and wrote down the ex's number so she could sort out some of Jamie's "bs".  

Jamie's dog is a corgi named Angelo, who is 80lbs. He's suppose to weigh 50-65lbs.  He hadn't been brushed in at least 3 months, and he had no car manners. During the twenty minute drive home he barked and howled the whole way.  Every time he'd bark Jamie would pick him up, cuddle him, and tell him it would be ok.  This only enforces bad behavior in dogs.  

We get back to the house and she lets him out of the car while i use 2 lint rollers to pick up the dog hair in the car.  Angelo runs around and plays with the other dogs.  Jamie states Angelo is going to be inside with her in the basement.  I asked her if he was potty trained and when he was fixed.  She states he's fixed and potty trained, and never marks his territory.  However, they didn't get him fixed til he was almost two years old.  Small dogs should be fixed around 6-8 months.  If you fix them at that age range, they don't learn to spray, and almost never learn it.  Guess what the first thing Angelo does as he's walking around. That's right! He starts marking everything.  The house, the trees, the dog house, etc.  

The marking is something I'll get stuck working on this week.  She stated she has no idea how to train him, and took him to obedience school when he was a puppy.  After much convincing, Jamie decided to let Angelo stay outside with the other dogs.  She is still adamant he's an inside dog despite her ex getting rid of him for going in the house.  

Monday, wasn't bad aside from Seth's attempt to make chicken parmigiana.  He decided to cut the chicken into 1/2 in strips.  He stated he was trying to cut out the cartilage.  In all my years of culinary experience I have never heard of such a thing in a breast muscle. He couldn't find any, but decided to make beer battered chicken.  He followed a recipe online that had poor reviews, but he thought it would turn out well.  He also decided not to season the flour so the chicken turned out bland and doughy.  Adya made cheddar & beer bratwurst with baked potato's.  

This was an ordeal in itself.  It should sound pretty straightforward and easy.  The issue is that Seth tried to play with the charcoal grill.  While it was lit, he closed the damper and vent; thus extinguishing the coals.  He decided to use a whole bottle of lighter fluid on the coals to light it up.  Thank God(!) it didn't light or the house would've caught ablaze since the grill is under the awning to the porch.  I got home and lit the grill.  To my amazement, there was still enough of the fluid an hour later to make a fireball the size of a beach ball.  At that point we finished cooking the bratwurst and potato's. 

Not too much has gone on yet today.  Jamie still hasn't fed or even checked on Angelo.  She put him outside on Sunday, and hasn't checked on him since.  Lucky for her I"m taking care of him.  I told her Sunday night if she wasn't going to take care of him he'd be finding a new home with a corgi rescue.  I'm hoping that she takes care of him tonight and tomorrow so she can keep her dog.  

I did send Seth a list of 12 places in town that are hiring today.  He said he'd check them out, but I get the feeling I'm going to have to fill them out for him.  I'm getting to the point where I'm going to fill them out and put my number and email as the contact.  I figure if I do that I'll know if he's getting job offers and getting denied like he states, or if he's just turning them down b/c he doesn't want to work there.

Seriously?!

Firstly, I apologize for posting this a bit late.  Yesterday was a mess! It's times like this I ask myself why I can't have normal days off like everyone else.  Something has to be normal for once....right?

Yesterday started off like any other day, no big deal.  There was nothing crazy going on with the dogs, I watered the flowers, and even tossed out some pecan's for the squirrel.  I called the land lord (guy who I'm leasing my house from) to come fix the air conditioner.  It's been about 84°f (28°c) inside lately, and it's getting annoying.  He said he'd send someone around 4pm to fix it.

Jamie woke up late as per her usual.  She was almost late for her psych. appointment.  She needed a few errands ran.  Adya went with me to drop her off at the appt. so we could go to the craft store while we waited on her.  We found the coolest Halloween ice cube trays! Skull & Bones ice cubes! It actually works pretty well. 

We picked up Jamie from the psych, and took her down town to the SRS office so she could get her food stamps.  I had to run home and meet the AC repair technician.  He checked the house out, and we found out some things about the land lord that aren't so savory.  I'll just say he does everything as cost effectively as he can; ie not fixing the roof til water is running down the walls, not repairing the broken chimney, replacing the AC units etc. 

Anyway, the AC tech stated that the unit is over 30 years old and has a refrigerant leak.  Not only that, but the HVAC unit was installed improperly.  He stated he'd be surprised if the AC has even worked at all this year,"From what I can guess looking at your system; you've been pulling cool air from the basement.  Yeah, the AC unit has been running, but it has almost no refrigerant...You're just wasting power."

The tech called the LL to see what he wanted to do, which was to just put more refrigerant in the unit, and see if that fixes it.  The tech told him he thought that would blow the unit, but it was his choice.  Hopefully, that fixes the issue, and the unit doesn't blow.  If that's the case it could be a week before we get a new unit.  The tech also stated that the unit was too small for the house.  The house needs at least a 3 ton unit, but a 4 would be better.  The old unit is a 2 ton.  Knowing at least a little bit about housing construction, and talking with him. It's a miracle the current unit has lasted 30 years! 

He left and told us that we needed to leave the air off until he came back to fix it, or else it could blow the unit.  He was surprised it hadn't yet.  I left the unit off til about 11pm last night when it reached an apex of  97°f ( 36°c) in the house! Yes, we had all the windows open and the fans going.  It was cooler outside than inside the house, but we couldn't get the air really going even with the centeral air fan going.  I gave up at 11pm and turned the AC on.  That was crazy!

I'll have to turn it off at 3pm today to keep it from freezing up again.  I'm not looking forward to today.  The weather forcast calls for a max temp of 103°f (39°c).  Hopefully, the day will prove to be cooler.